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Conversation with Steve Farrar & Jeff Scruggs

Conversation with Steve Farrar & Jeff Scruggs 150 150 cheryl


About Steve

  • Steve Farrar is all about equipping men to become spiritual leaders of their families and churches.? He is the author of twenty books, including the best selling, Point Man, Finishing Strong, King Me, God Built and Battle Ready.
  • He is the founder of Men?s Leadership Ministries, and has conducted over 600 men?s conferences in churches and conference centers across North America.
  • He teaches a weekly Men?s Bible study in Dallas that is attended by several hundred men and continually updated on-line.
  • Steve?s conference schedule continues to take him across the United States and Canada.

About Jeff

Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs are the founders of Hope Matters. Their ministry includes sharing God?s heart for marriage and relationships through Biblical counseling, writing?and?speaking. Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs are authors, speakers, Biblical counselors, and partners all over again.? Their writings include the well-known book ?I Do Again,?? their 30 year story of marriage, betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional damage and scarring, forgiveness, restoration, trust, and re-marriage. They are co-authors of ?Still LoLo? with their daughter?s Lauren and Brittany. This remarkable and life-changing story has been featured on The Today Show, I Am Second, Focus on the Family, Family Life with Dennis Rainey, Life Today, Good Morning America, The Katie Couric Show and more.

Brene Brown – “The power of Vulnerability”

Brene Brown – “The power of Vulnerability” 150 150 cheryl

Bren? Brown studies human connection ? our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.


Paul David Tripp- Liberate 2014 “Truth Endures”

Paul David Tripp- Liberate 2014 “Truth Endures” 150 150 cheryl

We had the privilege of hearing one of our favorite speakers @PaulTrippMinistries at @Liberate2014! During this Easter season, take time to listen.


Great Post from Paul David Tripp!

Great Post from Paul David Tripp! 150 150 cheryl


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Wednesday, January 29, 2014

It’s Not Your Party

Back in my early days of ministry, I was a kindergarten teacher at a Christian school. Those were the four longest years of my life…actually, that’s not true. They were four great years, because I was finally with an age group that I could relate to!

During that period of time, one of the mothers came to me and asked if she could have a birthday party for her daughter. As long as you invite everyone in the class, I said, that’s not a problem. The next day, Suzie’s mom turned my room into birthday kingdom.

There was a long table going down the middle of the classroom, and at the end of the table was Suzie – birthday girl. She had an amazing pile of presents in front of her, stacked so high you could barely see her face. All her classmates sat around the table, admiring Suzie’s stack of presents while looking at their own little sandwich bag of party favors.

One of the boys in the class wasn’t pleased. He began to harrumph. As Johhny looked at his bag of favors – two tootsie rolls, a lollipop, and a plastic whistle – and compared it to Suzie’s big pile of gifts, he got angrier and angrier. His harrumphing grew louder and louder. Finally, one mom helping out had enough.

She came to Johhny’s seat at the table, knelt down to look him the eye and said, “Johnny, it’s not your party.”

It’s a comical little scene, perhaps even “cute” at first, but the theology of those words obviously stuck with me throughout my life. As I think about my life and the glory of God, I need to remind myself that this life is not my party. You and I have been born into a world that was created to celebrate God. This life is not our party.

This life is bigger than your marriage. This life is bigger than your job. It’s bigger than your kids and their accomplishments. It’s bigger than your vacation or personal comfort. This life is bigger than you.

You see, the problem with Johnny is that he made that party all about himself. He wanted to be the center of attention. He wanted to receive all the gifts. He couldn’t see past his own selfish heart to celebrate Suzie and her birthday, and that only caused conflict and discord for everyone around him.

You and I act like Johnny all too often, but thankfully God is loving and patient and kind. Not only does He forgive us, but He continually invites us back into the party. What amazes me most is that God didn’t just write a Heavenly e-vite; He left Heaven to murder Himself so that we could be personally invited to an eternal party.

Jesus died and was raised to invite you to a party bigger than anything you could throw on your own. You’ll never understand life, or find peace of heart, until you understand that this life is not your party.

God Bless

Paul David Tripp

Reflection Questions

  1. Why is it tempting to make life about you?
  2. How did you celebrate yourself this past week?
  3. What happens when others don’t celebrate your party like you want?
  4. Why is God’s party better than yours?
  5. How can you become more involved in God’s party?

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Matching Gifts Grant awarded by Good News Outreach Foundation

Matching Gifts Grant awarded by Good News Outreach Foundation 150 150 cheryl
Matching Gifts Grant awarded by Good News Outreach Foundation

We are excited to let you know that Hope Matters Marriage Ministries has again been awarded a $25,000 matching gifts grant from the Good News Outreach Foundation for any new gifts for the balance of 2013.

?We are humbled by and so grateful for God’s continued provision for HMMM. It has been a year of great promise and blessing as our Lord Jesus has healed many marriages and restored broken families and broken hearts. What a blessing that we get to be a part of this. There have been several remarriages with one just this past Tuesday and another scheduled before the end of the year. Praise Him! ?We have had some opportunities to speak about God’s love and His redemptive plan through various media opportunities and conferences with more on the books for next year. Please pray that we would be good stewards of these opportunities and please prayerfully consider making a financial contribution to Hope Matters before the end of the Year. Your contribution will be doubled by the Good News Outreach Foundation. Donations made to HMMM which is a 501(c)3 nonprofit are tax deductible to the extent of the law.

Hebrews:12:1-2 “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that has been set before us looking to Jesus the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.”

Apply this sermon to your marriage! The Peace Child by Louie Giglio

Apply this sermon to your marriage! The Peace Child by Louie Giglio 150 150 cheryl

Want your marriage to be richer and deeper? What is God’s definition of “Who you are?”. Listen to Louie Giglio hit it out of the park with this sermon from Passion City Church in Atlanta, Georgia………Don’t miss it! The war is over…………

Passion Church – Peace Child

Great for marriage: “How Do You Talk?” Take the test in great article….. by Paul David Tripp

Great for marriage: “How Do You Talk?” Take the test in great article….. by Paul David Tripp 150 150 cheryl
?If you have never listened to Paul David Tripp speak, or read any of his books, we encourage you to!


Monday, June 24, 2013

A Survey on Talk

I want you to take a few minutes out of your day and take a test. Don?t be afraid; it?s not a pass-fail test, but I think it can help you evaluate the way you talk.

Below are ten questions for your personal evaluation. You can answer them in your head, but if you want to write out your answers and discuss them with your spouse, a friend, or in your small group, click here to download the printable PDF.

1. Does your talk with others lead to problem solving?

2. Does your talk with others have a ‘me against them’ or a ‘stand-together’ posture to it?

3. Do your words encourage others to be open and honest about their true thoughts and feelings?

4. Are you approachable and teachable or defensive and self-protective when talking to others?

5. Is your communication healthy in its relationship to how it structures the relationships in your life?

6. Does your talk encourage others and stimulate them to grow?

7. Do you talk to others in order to develop relationships with them, or do you only talk to solve problems in times of trouble?

8. Do you speak words of confession when necessary and words of forgiveness when needed?

9. Do your words reflect a willingness to serve others or demand that you be served?

10. As you face struggles in your talk, do you feel all alone, misunderstood, hopeless, and discouraged, or have you sought and found God?s help?

If you would like to learn more about the human struggle with talk, click here to listen to my current radio series on Godly communication.We’ve entitled the series “What About Your Talk?” and I think it will help you to learn more about your struggle and God’s purpose for your words.

Check back each Saturday for a new episode. You can listen right here on my website, or you can subscribe to Right Here, Right Now on my iTunes podcast.

Connecting the transforming power of Jesus Christ to everyday life.

59 ways we are “to be” with one another in the New Testament…….Matt Chandler @ The Village Church 6/16/2013- What is a Covenant?

59 ways we are “to be” with one another in the New Testament…….Matt Chandler @ The Village Church 6/16/2013- What is a Covenant? 150 150 cheryl

“What is a Covenant?” (listen here)

The 59 Things:

Love one another
Serve one another
Accept one another
Strengthen one another
Help one another
Encourage one another
Care for one another
Forgive one another
Submit to one another
Commit to one another
Build Trust with one another
Be Devoted to one another
Be Patient with one another
Be Interested in one another
Be Accountable to one another
Confess to one another
Live in Harmony with one another
Don’t be Conceited with one another
Don’t Pass Judgment with one another
Don’t Slander one another
Instruct one another
Greet one another
Admonish one another
Spur one another on
Meet with one another
Agree with one another
Be Concerned with one another
Be Humble with one another
Be Compassionate with one another
Do not be Consumed with one another
Do not be Angry with one another
Do not Lie to one another
Do not Grumble with one another
Give Preference to one another
Be at Peace with one another
Sing to one another
Be of the same mind
Comfort one another
Be kind to one another
Live in Peace with one another
Carry one another’s burdens

Free book April 22 & 23rd ONLY- “Broken Heart On Hold” by Linda Rooks

Free book April 22 & 23rd ONLY- “Broken Heart On Hold” by Linda Rooks 150 150 cheryl

Linda Rooks wanted to let you know that Broken Heat on Hold will be FREE on Kindle, Nook and other e-readers this Monday and Tuesday, April 22 and 23.?? After midnight on Tuesday, Broken Heart on Hold will be on sale for $2.99 until May 24.? People can go to see more details about this free giveaway and other e-readers where it?s available.

This is an excellent book!

Accurate Self-Assessment by Paul David Tripp

Accurate Self-Assessment by Paul David Tripp 150 150 cheryl

Paul David Tripp is an amazing teacher and writer.? This wonderful article from his blog talks about how we often aren’t accurate with our own self- assessment.

Read here.

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Jeff & Cheryl Scruggs